The Curious Coach Podcast

Episode 079:
Mini: Positive and Negative Emotions

Have you ever noticed how we, and others, tend to apply a judgement to emotions;  that they’re positive or negative.  This week’s challenge, with the help of a battery and a light, is to be curious about what this really means and whether it’s really helpful or not.

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Hi there and welcome to this week’s mini episode of The Curious Coach Podcast. This week I’d like to talk to you about emotions. When we talk about emotions we can very easily categorise emotions as being positive or negative. And we also tend to apply a judgement when we refer to them.

So anger would be a negative emotion and happiness would be a positive emotion, for example. How often have you heard somebody tell you “not to be so negative” or “you should be more positive”. And how helpful is that judgement?  Especially then when we start judging ourselves that way.

If you think about battery, such as this one, you’ll notice that the battery has got a little positive and negative mark on it. And if we put that battery into a very simple circuit, then you’ll see that the light comes on.  However if we take away the negative part of that battery, to remove that negative connection, then light goes out.

It’s curious… because if we try to take away all of our negative emotions from our life, would our life go out as well? In reality, for a battery to work and for the circuit to to work correctly, and for the light to shine, we need a positive and negative connection.

My challenge for you this week, is to not judge any emotions as positive or negative but actually start even more simply than that. To simply acknowledge any emotions that you are feeling. Simply acknowledge them, without judgement and put a name on it. What is the emotion? is it anxiety? is it anger? Sadness? Disappointment? Joy? Relief? or something else? Apply a name to the emotion rather than a judgement and then simply be curious about what that’s telling you. And tell yourself that it’s not good or bad, positive or negative. It’s normal.

We need all of these things in our life because they are part of who the who we are the part of what makes our light shine.

So as always I’d love to hear how you get on or what you thought so please feel free to drop me an email to [email protected] and leave a comment below this video of you watching the LinkedIn and for more information you can find full details on my website at and don’t forget that Stephen with a PH!

Thanks listening and until next week stay curious