062: Mini: Control
This week’s episode is about reflecting on what things are truly within your own control. It’s a fairly simple question but can be quite complex once we start realising what is, or isn’t, within our own control!
Hello and welcome to this weekly mini-episode of The Curious Coach Podcast. As we start a new year, and indeed, a new decade, now might be a good time to reflect on this fairly simple but thought provoking question – what, on a daily basis, is truly within your control?
Think about that for a moment. There are many things that happen to us, or that we do on a daily basis, and sometimes these may be caused by habits, or because we feel we have no option, or we do them simply on autopilot. And the challenge for you this week is to take a moment and reflect on whether they are outside of your control or within you control.
If they’re outside of your control, the question becomes, how can I be more accepting of the fact that it is outside of my control. For example, you want to walk to the bus stop as you need to be somewhere. The weather is cold and wet. As you set-off towards the bus stop you’re getting cold and feeling miserable. You can feel the water seeping through your outer layers and that just makes you feel worse. When you get to the bus stop, there’s no sign of the bus for several minutes and by this stage you might be resentful of how rotten your situation is.
However, in reality, the weather is outside of your control. You can’t change it. And you can’t control how long it is before the next bus will come along. Despite this, we can still find ourselves getting resentful and frustrated. Why couldn’t the bus come along sooner, why couldn’t it not be raining? When we realise these things are outside of our control, we might be able to let go of that resentment or frustration. Instead, we could focus on what is within our control. Rather than leaving right now, it might be possible for me to leave a little later when it might have stopped raining. Or could I could have chosen to put on clothing that I knew was more waterproof. I could have brought along headphones so I could pass the time more enjoyably whilst waiting for the bus. I also might have had the option of taking a taxi or driving because I realised the weather was going to be bad. Or maybe even reschedule my visit for a different day. Regardless, when you look at this simple example, there are usually lots of things that are within your control. And of course, in any situation, how you react and respond is usually within your own control as well.
So that’s my challenge for you this week. Start to become more aware of those things that are either within or outside of your control. Once you become aware of them, reflect on what this means and whether you could make different choices. As always, if you’d like to get in touch, please don’t hesitate to send me an email to email@example.com and that’s stephen with a p.h. Full details of this and all the other episodes can be found on my website at stephenclements.ie/podcast
Thanks for listening and until next time, don’t forget - stay curious!