This week’s episode is about milestones and reflecting on their importance as we travel through this journey of life!
Hello and welcome to this weekly mini-episode of the Curious Coach podcast. As we travel through this journey of life, we’re going to reach various milestones along the way.
Some of these milestones might be pretty significant. For example, the ‘firsts’, our first car, first kiss, first love, first house, first job and so on. Usually, we can always remember these firsts. If someone asked, we can usually recall a memory fairly quickly and tell some story.
And then there’s other milestones along the way that might be significant but we don’t necessarily recognise them at the time. It might be a time when you stood up for something you truly believed in, when you started to realise some of your deeply held values thereby getting to know yourself a little more.
As I think about this a little more, there’s nearly two types of milestones. There are milestones based on things we have done or achieved. They’re there for people to see, they can be quantified, they’re tangible, they’re measurable and usually the result of us ‘doing’ something. Running a personal best in a race, coming top of our class, finishing a training course, starting a course, getting a promotion or losing a certain amount of weight.
And then there’s another set of milestones. They are more intangible. They’re harder to measure. They’re based on feelings or emotions. They’re connected with how we show up in the world. They’re intrinsic and they may not be visible to the world. At times, they might overlap or be connected with those other types of tangible milestones, but equally, they may not.
For example, I’ve just recently received my first coaching credential with the International Coach Federation. It was a milestone that was nearly two years in the making. As a result, I’ve now got a certificate that I can hang on the wall and lots of people have offered their congratulations – which I really appreciate. Along the way though, there were other, perhaps more significant milestones. The moment, a couple of months into training, when I really believed that I was now on the right path for the next stage of my own journey. Another moment, when I felt I was starting to discover who I wanted to be as a coach. And recently remembering one from 20 years ago that I’d forgotten, but which may have been a small spark for me to become interested in this whole area in the first place.
So this week’s reflective question is about taking a moment to reflect on your own milestones. What I’d suggest doing, is to start by making a list of the tangible milestones. Then, once you’ve got a number of them listed, start to reflect about what made these milestones significant? Having reached each milestones, what did you learn about yourself as a result?
And as you start to reflect on what you learned, notice whether of those intangible milestones start to materialise. And again, what is significant about those? What are you learning about who you are a result?
As always, there’s no right or wrong answer. Simply be curious and reflect. As always, I’d love to hear how you got on and any thoughts that came up for you. So please don’t hesitate to get in touch by sending me an email to firstname.lastname@example.org and that’s stephen with a p.h. Full details of this and all the other episodes can be found on my website at stephenclements.ie/podcast
Thanks for listening and until next week, don’t forget - stay curious!