This week’s episode asks a deceptively simple question about how you’re feeling. Are you up to giving it a go? As always - I'd love to hear how you got on, so please give me a shout with your thoughts!
Hello and welcome to this weekly mini-episode of the Curious Coach podcast. Let me ask a very simply question – how are you feeling?
Think about this question for a moment. How many times a day do we ask this question or a variation of it: “How are you?”, “How’s things?”, “How’s it going?”
How many times, over the last week, did you meet someone and ask this? Or walk past someone in the office and ask this? I’m guessing it’s probably quite a few. It nearly seems to be a standard greeting that we use without really thinking about it.
And when you’re asked this question, what’s the normal reply? “I’m good thanks, and you?” or maybe just “fine”.
Imagine if we were able to move away from this being a standard, automatic way to greet someone, and to use it as genuine question instead, where we deeply cared about the answer; where we didn’t rush past the other person automatically replying “Good thanks and you?”. Imagine if we asked it from a place of concern. Where we stopped long enough to let the other person know that we were genuinely asking how they’re feeling, or how they’re doing?
And imagine if we asked ourselves this question: How am I feeling? That, for a moment, we stopped long enough and simply focused on answering that one question. How am I feeling? How am I feeling right now? And took a few moments to be curious about the reply.
The first time you try this, it might seem a little bit strange. You might struggle to identify a word for how you’re feeling. But my challenge for you this week is to do just that. Every now and then, simply stop all other distractions and ask yourself that question – ‘How am I feeling?’ and sit with it for a moment whilst you reflect on the answer.
Make of note of what comes up for you. It’s something you might want to do a number of times each day. Notice whether it’s easier to identify certain feelings more than others – whether you can identify when you’re feeling down vs feeling up and so on. Notice whether there’s any patterns. Notice even the words you’re using to describe how you’re feeling. Is it words like sad, happy, or fearful, or are you using a wider and more nuanced ranged of words to describe the different feelings you’re experiencing.
Our feelings can change with every thought we have. So this might be more challenging that you might imagine – but don’t let that stop you giving it a go and seeing how you get on and what you notice.
As always, there’s no right or wrong answer. This is simple about your own self-awareness and noticing what going on for you and being curious about what you’re feeling in those moments where you pause long enough to notice.
So there you have it, a few things for you to reflect on and be curious about. As always, I’d love to hear how you got on and any thoughts that came up for you. So please don’t hesitate to get in touch by sending me an email to firstname.lastname@example.org and that’s stephen with a p.h. Full details of this and all the other episodes can be found on my website at stephenclements.ie/podcast
Thanks for listening and until next week, don’t forget - stay curious!