040: Reflective: What to say 'yes' to?

This week’s reflective question is all about timing time to reflect on what you’re saying ‘yes’ to in your life and whether this is moving you towards your goal.  And whilst you’re saying ‘yes’ to things, what are you saying ‘no’ to?

Let me know how you get on!

Transcript

Hello and welcome to this weekly mini-episode of the Curious Coach podcast.  This week’s reflective question is about taking a moment to reflect on what, in your life, to say yes to…

Some people might go live their life by saying “yes” to every opportunity because you’ll never know where these opportunities may lead or who you might meet along the way.

Others might go through life saying “no” to lots of opportunities and this could be for a variety of reason: fear, uncertainty, apathy, not enough reward by saying “yes” or something else entirely.

On my coaching journey so far, I’ve met lots of great coaches and been really blessed to make some new and really amazing friends along the way.

One of them, has a mantra for saying yes to every coaching related opportunity and I’ve been living this mantra myself over the last year or so.   And there’s no doubt it works.  I’ve said yes to lots of coaching or coaching related opportunities over the last year. It could be anything from mentoring on a course, to doing various talks on coaching, coaching demos in front of a global webinar audience or even taking on coaching clients. For many of these opportunities I’ve done so without any expectations of anything in return. But what’s also been true is that each opportunity has led to something else. Maybe not straight away, but like a pebble being thrown into a still body of water, the ripples spread out and eventually those ripples will have an effect.  And I’ve been truly amazed and humbled with where some of these opportunities have led to.

But then another friend recently offered some very wise words:  If you’re saying “yes” to everything, you’re saying “no” to yourself.  This was such a lovely, heartfelt offering, and I really appreciate the compassion and concern behind the offering from a truly great friend.   And it really did made me think:  If I am so busy saying “yes” to everything, what am I saying “no” to as a result?  It might be things that its ok to say “no” to,  but it might not.  Does saying “yes” mean spending less time with family and those who are important to me? Does it mean compromising the exercise I do, or the time that I have to recharge and self-care?

So this week’s question is to reflect on the things in your life that you are saying “yes” to.  Are they moving your towards your goal or how you want to be as human being?  And in saying “yes”, are you saying “no” to other things as a result?  With this awareness, you will hopefully be able make a more conscious choice and say “yes” to all those things which are truly important and impactful on your life.

Anyway, that’s it for this week.  I hope you gain some new insights from your reflections. If you’d like to share, then I’d love to hear how you got on,  So please don’t hesitate to get in touch by sending me an email to stephen@stephenclements.ieand that’s stephen with a p.h.  Full details of this and all the other episodes can be found on my website at stephenclements.ie/podcast

Thanks for listening and until next week, don’t forget - stay curious!