I believe you are world’s most foremost expert on yourself. You don’t need me to tell you what to do, or how to do it. As a coach, I work with talented and highly skilled subject matter experts to discover and unlock their leadership potential so they can become truly inspirational thought-leaders that others will want to follow. Amongst other things, I help them to develop confidence, self-awareness and self-belief which will complement their deep technical skills.
Coaching is a deceptively simple but potentially powerful and transformative process. A partnership underpinned by an environment that creates safety and trust; empowering a client to be open and honest with themselves; the creation of self-awareness through deep connections and reflections; and ultimately the generation of forward momentum. But not everyone is ready, or indeed willing, to be coached. A client needs to be ready to see their reflection and be open to new self-awareness. For those that are, powerful outcomes will be possible.
I believe the coaching partnership is built on trust, honesty and curiosity.
Absolute trust in the coach and a safe environment is fundamental so that a client can be open, honest and vulnerable. I believe trust has many parts to it: keeping confidentiality as per our agreement; by respecting and not judging the client; remembering that this is the client’s agenda; and having an absolute positive regard for the client. Without trust, the coaching relationship will simply not work.
Honesty is important not only for my clients but also for myself. For the client: I need to honestly reflect back what I’m seeing, hearing, thinking and feeling without judgement or attachment. For myself, it’s about knowing my limitations as a coach and engaging with supervision; being able to recognise where my own issues may be distorting my ability to work with a client; and knowing when to say ‘no’ to a potential client because I have doubts about whether we could work together; or being honest with myself on whether I’m holding back challenging a client.
Finally, I believe curiosity comes from dancing in the moment with a client. Letting questions come in this moment rather than having them planned in advance. The client is leading the dance; it’s their agenda. There’s a natural curiosity and thrill from genuinely not knowing where we’ll end up. But to empower that curiosity, I need to trust myself, the process, and the client.
Ultimately, the client has the real power for transformation and growth within them. If I can help a client connect what’s going on in their heads, with what’s going on in their hearts, then anything is possible.
"Somewhere over the rainbow, skies are blue. And the dreams that you dare to dream. Really do come true." - Yip Harbug