Archives for January 25, 2020

Episode 067: Mini: Saying No!

The Curious Coach Podcast

Episode 067:
Mini: Saying No!

This week’s episode is about reflecting on what you need to say “no” to, so that you can say “yes” to other, perhaps more important, things.

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Hello and welcome to this weekly mini-episode of The Curious Coach Podcast.  This week’s episode is about reflecting on this simple question:  What do you need to say no to?

If you’re anything like me, you might find yourself saying “yes” to lots of things.  Taking on more work, helping others, agreeing to be somewhere, to do something and so on. We can find ourselves living a very enjoyable, packed and busy life by saying “yes” to all these things.

However, living a packed and busy life doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re living the life you want to live; one where you’re being congruent to your own desires, passions and sense of purpose.

So my challenge for you this week is to reflect on the things that you need to say “no” to.  The things that might be an energy drain or that might keep you busy and occupied but which don’t move your closer to where you want to get to.  By identifying things you could say “no” to, you’re making more space for things you could say “yes” to.  And these are the things that will move you more in the direction you want to go, and how you want to ‘be’ in the world.

And when thinking about this, it’s not simply about saying “yes’ or “no” to external thoughts; it can also be saying “yes” or “no” to yourself.  As a simple example, do you want to say “yes” to yourself when you feel like sitting down and watching TV for the entire evening, if you said ‘No’ instead, what could you then say ‘yes’ to?  Of course, there are times when saying ‘yes’ to sitting down and watching TV all evening is the right answer – and that’s ok.  It’s not about something  being right or wrong, good or bad – it’s simply about being conscious about the things and requests we say yes and no to!

So that’s my challenge for you this week.  Simply reflect on whether there are things you could be saying ‘no’ to, and as a result, what does this allow you to say ‘yes’ to instead.

As always, if you’d like to get in touch, please don’t hesitate to send me an email to stephen@stephenclements.ie and that’s stephen with a p.h.  Full details of this and all the other episodes can be found on my website at stephenclements.ie/podcast

Thanks for listening and until next time, don’t forget – stay curious!

Episode 066: Mini: Posture

The Curious Coach Podcast

Episode 066:
Mini: Posture

This week’s episode is about noticing whether there’s any connections with your posture and how you’re feeling!

Listen below or search for The Curious Coach Podcast on Apple podcasts, spotify or wherever else you normally listen to podcasts!

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Hello and welcome to this weekly mini-episode of The Curious Coach Podcast.  This week’s episode is about noticing how emotions might be affecting your posture.

And no, before you get worried, I’m not about to ask you to walk upright with a stack of books balancing on your head to improve your posture; instead, it’s about simply noticing how you’re physically  carrying your body at various times throughout your day and being curious about whether there are any emotions or feelings connected with it.

As an example, you might notice that your shoulders feel tense and maybe slighted hunched and turned inwards.  Maybe you also notice that your head is slightly drooped and as a result your gaze is tending to be more downwards than upwards.  When you take a moment to breath and check-in with yourself and notice these things about your body, you might start to realise that you’re feeling tense, under pressure, and perhaps a little bit over whelmed.  At least, that’s what I noticed this week as I was trying to juggle a number of different things that I wanted to get finished this week before travelling.  Having noticed this, I adjusted my posture.  I brought my shoulders back, I lifted my gaze up and instantly, I could feel a little bit of that tension and pressure release as I took a breath and then went systematically about working through what I needed to get done.  Sometimes, simply being aware of your posture and momentarily making a small change, can have quite a powerful affect.

Another example I’m become aware of, is when I’m out for  run.  Running is when I tend to do a lot of thinking and reflecting, in many ways, running is a form of mediation for me as I sometimes get to switch off and my thoughts simply drift.  Occasionally, when running, I’ll lift my gaze upwards to the sky and look up at the clouds, the birds and everything that’s up there rather than the pavement in front of me.  And again, I notice that I briefly feel different, and start to think differently when I do.  I suddenly feel inspired, determined, courageous!

So that’s my challenge for you this week.  Simply notice your posture, be curious about any emotions or feelings that you’re experiencing and then see if you get a different feeling by making slight adjustment to your posture.   Dare to experiment and see what you notice!

As always, if you’d like to get in touch, please don’t hesitate to send me an email to stephen@stephenclements.ie and that’s stephen with a p.h.  Full details of this and all the other episodes can be found on my website at stephenclements.ie/podcast

Thanks for listening and until next time, don’t forget – stay curious!

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